A story of charts, compromise, and choosing love anyway
2025 is unfolding exactly as the stars promised: a radical whirlwind of change, a stripping away of everything that distracts me from living up to my full potential.
The biggest plot twist came during eclipse season in March. Under the full moon in Virgo, a wonderful man entered my life—like a lightning bolt. What followed has been a fated journey of love, trust, and transformation that set my soul on fire.
Now, with the new moon in Virgo just behind us, I look back at that moment half a year ago with awe and wonder.
And I have a theory about why we call it falling in love.
The Core of Falling
If you’ve seen Inside Out 2, you’ll remember how certain core beliefs are formed deep within us. Things like:
I am loyal.
I am a good person.
I am difficult.
I am not enough.
I can’t receive love without working for it.
When those core beliefs are less kind, it takes work as adults to heal them. In Human Design, they’re often mirrored in our “not-self strategies” in open centers, or in bridging gates across a split.
For example:
Open Sacral Center → How can I do more so they don’t think I’m lazy?
Open Heart Center → How can I prove that I am worthy of his love?
Friends and family can trigger these lessons, but nothing shines a brighter light on them than a new relationship.
Our charts
For context: I’m a 2/5 instinctive (splenic) Projector with seven open centers. My partner is a 5/1 emotional Manifesting Generator with way more definition.
Together, we create a “7 and 2” relationship chart. Seven and two – work to do. We have to work at it, it won’t come easily, all of it.
Other possibilities (maybe for you?) are:
9 and 0 – nowhere to go
8 and 1 – have some fun
6 and 3 – better to be free
We have four electromagnetic channels—instant attraction. Like electricity, when one of us holds half a channel and the other completes it, the energy clicks. This is so much fun early on in the relationship. Especially the 59-6, the channel of intimacy, I sometimes wonder why we bother wearing pants around the house.
We also have dominance channels, where he carries channels I don’t. His three backbone channels (20-57-34) move fully into my aura. Standing next to him, I feel stronger—not because I am weak, but because his ManGen power elevates me.
And then there are the compromise channels. Five of them. That’s where friction and imbalance live. But instead of driving us apart, they have become our teachers. Through them, we practice honesty, vulnerability, and compassion.
That’s where the love grows.
The Fall
The only choice I really had to make was whether to accept being overpowered in some ways. My instinct nodded yes.
A few years ago, I would have been terrified of losing myself in someone else’s energy. Now I see it differently: when loved ones enter my open centers, they enrich me. Yes, I change behaviour – sacral, voice – throat, thinking – ajna and even values – heart depending on who I’m with—but my definition, the fixed core of who I am, remains intact.
Fears, old and new, (re)surface during this time of energetic upheaval. Soothed by care, understanding and compassion. My instinct, my inner compass, keeps nodding yes.
That’s what the acceptance of falling in love feels like: the surrender to trust, the willingness to expand beyond what you knew was possible. This can be with a person, but also with yourself, an opportunity, or the universe as a whole.
Invited to show up fully
Looking back, everything in this love story unfolded by our designs. My instinct recognized him the minute he walked in, all the hairs in my neck were upright. It felt like a little electric shock in my spine and gut reading his energetic field. As a Projector, I waited for his invitation—and when it came unexpectedly, my heart leapt. As an emotional being, he followed his wave to get clarity. And once he did, he stepped in with all of his willpower and love.
Since then, he’s continued to invite me, every day, to show up fully as myself. That’s the real magic: living your design, following your authority, and trusting the process.
Yes, sometimes it means fighting for enough sleep, or stepping out of his aura to recharge. But love is not about perfect compatibility—it’s about awareness, choice, and courage.
There will never be a Human Design dating app that guarantees a perfect match. Charts can explain mechanics, but they can’t explain love.
Love begins where you stop questioning why and start trusting your own definition.
Trust your compass, not your fears.
With love, from a girl who is very much in love with the magic of the universe,
A.